Week 3 is loosely called the happiness week but we will go much deeper than that as we want you to begin to have mastery over your emotions and take back control of your brain. You can watch videos on how to be happier here.
It’s also the week where we delve into our unconscious thoughts and beliefs about ourselves.
Changing Unhelpful Limiting Beliefs
Changing our limiting beliefs will help with permanent weight loss. Our beliefs are part of the 60,000 thoughts we have everyday. Some of them are the same ones repeating themselves over and over. But that is all they are… Thoughts.
Debbie teaches clients to say ‘This brain is having a thought” over and over and listen, observe and capture some of the ones that are damaging you or are not useful. Ones like ‘I’m not good enough” or “I don’t deserve…” come to mind.
Who Says? Where Did This Nonsense Come From?
We can then process them by asking questions. Did your creator go along the line of babies born on your birth date with a worthy stamp and stopped at you and said ”Oh I need the other stamp for this one, where is the unworthy stamp !” Sounds ridiculous doesn’t it?
Maybe it was a parent or a sibling who made you feel less than, or you didn’t fit in with the right crowd at school. This can have lasting negative consequences as well. This is how abusers work to break down their victims, by constantly telling them how they are no good, nobody wants them, they are worthless, therefore making them reliant on their abuser.
We can change this and turn your life around for good.
Some Beliefs Run (Ruin) Your Life
Your beliefs underpin every single thought you have, every action you take, every goal you set, every value you have, every habit your form, ultimately leading you to how you live your life.
If you believe you can’t do something then chances are you won’t even try.If in the past you’ve been told you are no good at something, again, chances are you’ll have the belief that you can’t do that.
This exercise on the video will help you to unearth some of the deep damaging beliefs you may hold about yourself.
Affirmations ”I Like Myself”
One of the ways your beliefs are formed in life is through repetition e.g. if you were constantly told as a child just how shy you are, chances are you’ll believe that you are a shy person.
We can use this knowledge of how repetition works and it can help us form new beliefs. By using affirmations which is something we can do consciously to bring forth those outdated untrue and limiting ones we can then challenge them.
When you first start saying ”I like myself” affirmation your mind will try and reject them. This is perfectly natural as it feels as if you are trying to hold two conflicting beliefs at the same time. The label for this is cognitive dissonance. Overtime though your true beliefs will start to come through and help to build your self esteem.